We can all agree that the 'in-and-out' technique doesn't work. Plenty of women have laid back and faked a very convincing moan while their partner fiddles around down there, doing what feels like searching for gold. If fingering is performed incorrectly, it can actually be a really painful and uncomfortable experience. But, we have to cut him some slack. There is no doubt that it is a confusing act. Do you focus on penetration?